“Your network is your net-worth!”, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with” and “energy flows where attention goes”. I’m sure you have all heard these common sayings which I believe all possess an element of truth. The people you surround yourself with are critical in determining the person you will eventually come to be. In short, they mould you. Not only do they mould you but they can also be a source of inspiration, hold you accountable and help you achieve your goals. You don’t believe me? Take me for example, ever since I distanced myself from old school friends and intentionally set out to build a new network that would help me reach my goals (which I’ll outline in another article), I began to mould into a different person.
I started hanging around individuals who I aspired to be like whilst simultaneously binge-watching content from people who were doing things I wanted to do. Most of my energy was directed towards building these relationships further, whether that be online or physically, then adding them to my network. I quickly began to think strategically and sought to learn how to execute and even speak like some of these people. The results I’ve received since building my network have been phenomenal and as I’m sure you can tell, the success speaks for itself.
But what exactly is a network I hear you ask? Well, a network is a group of individuals you can reach out to and exchange value. You are probably wondering whether I just happen to fall into a good network but the truth is I created it for myself, from scratch. Today I’m going to share with you my 7 FIRE steps to building your own network from scratch.
Step 1: Be intentional
To be intentional means to act with purpose. As such you should be purposeful in the way you seek to network. In my opinion, when building a network your sole aim should never be to get to know someone for knowing them’s sake. Instead, you should look for areas where each of you can exchange value to build each other up. That starts with potentially reaching out to or surrounding yourself with someone with the intent to provide them with value of some kind.
Step 2: Be Practical
You must be practical - if you want to have a wealthy multi-millionaire in your network, it makes sense to connect with someone who is making a steady income for themselves (£50,000 - £250,000 per anum). They might have a coach or mentor who has helped them achieve these results. Their coach or mentor might have a life coach who has helped them obtain a certain level of wealth and so on. If you were to connect the ladder you will not be far off from having that multi-millionaire in your network. You must learn to play the long game. In the same vein, if you were to start a business, you must make it your duty to attend events where you will find prominent entrepreneurs.
Step 3: Design the network YOU desire
Take the time to decide what type of people you want in your network. Questions you can ask are: “What value can they provide to me?”; “What value can I provide to them?”; “ How old are they?”; “What is their occupation?”; “Do we have similar goals?”; “Are our core values aligned?” ; “Where can I find these individuals?”.When you take all this into account, you will have a clearer idea of who exactly you want in your network.
Step 4: Have a good why
Ask yourself why you want these people in your network? Is it for clout or do you genuinely feel like you can exchange value? You want to be able to leverage off your network to achieve your goals so being a fan is simply not enough. You must be honest with yourself.
Step 5: Position yourself in the right rooms
Once you have completed the aforementioned steps it is critical for you to go to places where you will meet the type of people you want in your network. As I mentioned previously if you aspire to start a business, get in a room with business founders. If you would like to become an influencer, make sure to attend events where influencers can be found whether that is a physical location or a group chat on Instagram. You have to put yourself out there to be seen. You must go out of your comfort zone and interact with these people face to face.
Step 6: Provide value
Once you enter the right room, it is not enough to simply extract value from people, you should offer something in return. When you have something to give, you create a mutually beneficial relationship. Adding value to other people means they are more likely to want to help you. It is not enough to just take from others, you need to offer something - they need an incentive to be in your network. It is more blessed to give than to receive (Acts 25:35), people are more likely to remember someone who did a favour for them than somebody who just got what they wanted and left.
Step 7: Follow up
Don’t forget to leave with a follow-up! If you have a business card share it, share your social media platforms or exchange numbers, emails or whatever you can. You want to be able to stay in touch with these people in your network so that you are not only reaching out when it’s time to exchange value. Your network should be like a community. Seek to follow up and check up on those in your network, as you would with your friends and family.
In short, you can build your dream network from intentionally designing it then going out with actionable steps to build relationships with these desired individuals. Always provide when you encounter people and leave with a follow-up.
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